Posted by: Nici | 17 October, 2010


My 14 year old son has inspired me to write this post as it’s just been one of those weeks, but first a little background. I have been a lone parent since my son was 2 years old, I used to work part time at an insurance brokers but decided that this was not the career I wanted to be in forever, so I took the decision to go back to college in 2009 to do an Access Course to give me the qualifications I needed to go to university. I passed the course and in September this year I started university studying the Social Work BA Hons Degree, with a view to working in Child Protection when I have graduated. I am only in university two days a week so am home when my son gets home from school and am studying when he is out with his friends at the weekend or whilst he is at school. I believe that I have got the baance right and certainly my son seems happy.

So imagine my surprise when I get a phone call from his school this week to ask me if I had been leaving my son by himself for the past two weeks whilst I was at uni! After assuring the school that I had in fact been at home and informing them that I was at uni as a student social worker, they were happy that I would deal with this statement with my son when he got home from school. Basically what had happened is my son had lost his school tie and instead of buying a new one with the money I had given him, he decided to spend it on food and borrow a tie from the Head of Year. When my son was approached by this teacher asking for the tie back, the *only* excuse he could think of was to say that I had deserted him so he wouldn’t get into trouble. After explaining to him that he cannot lie about things like that, he accepted that he was wrong and apologised not only to me but also the school.

Then on Friday, whilst he was at youth club, I recived a phone call from his girlfriend telling me that my son had been injured and I had to go there immediately. Once I arrived I was met by the youth workers and was told that he was listening to a live band, jumping around in the mosh pit and got pushed and accidently head butted one of this friends. An ambulance had been called and there was talk of him possibly needing stitches as he had cut his head. When the paramedics arrived, they checked him over and due to his paleness and feeling nauseous, recommended that he should go to A&E. So off he goes in the ambulance with me following behind. After 3 hours we were finally seen and luckily no stitches were needed, they simply glued him back up and was advised to take regular doses of paracetamol for the pain and the headaches. My son joked with the doctor that I had locked him a freezer and that was how he got the injuries!

I love my son dearly but wish he would rane in his imagination at times…. A student social worker with a son who says I left him alone for two weeks and then jokes that I locked him in the freezer when at A&E! At this rate I will be struck off before I even get started lol.




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  2. I’m sooo not looking forward to the teen years! Great to have a vivid imagination but?????

  3. You are cordially invited to a month of Edgar Allan Poe… if you’re up for the thrills!

  4. Hello Nici. You may remember me. I certainly remember you because you wrote a great review of my first book Kicked Out. Hope you are enjoying your social work course. I studied social work myself and found it hugely interesting (and at times frustrating and often damn hard work too). And though I don’t work as a social worker anymore I have found the qualification to be very useful in applying for other social care jobs. Just don’t keep locking your son in the freezer or you will definitely be struck off!
    Anyway, my website is finally happening and I would like to link to your review of Kicked Out in the Reviews section. Is that okay with you? And as you can see I’ve even got myself a wordpress blog as well. I might not be zooming into the future but I’ve finally caught up with the present perhaps.
    Take care and thanks once again – Richard

  5. Hello Richard, I am sorry it has taken so long to reply back to you….. Of course I remember you! Your book was brilliant 🙂 And yes that’s fine to link to my review, are you planning on writing anymore books?

    I have nearly finished my first year at uni (May), throughly enjoying it, although not the assignments quite so much! I have just completed a 50 hours observational placement with a Community Mental Health team and found the whole experience very interesting. Although I was working with adults, I have always wanted to work with children so I am considering Adolescent Mental Health as my career choice when I qualify.

    Hope you’re well 🙂

  6. Thanks Nici. No worries about the time. You’re obviously a busy woman, and I’m glad you’re enjoying your course. My website is still not finished which is a bit annoying as I did all my stuff a couple of months ago. But thanks for allowing the link. As for a second book, it should be coming out in the summer. A very different read – a memoir started when my partner was diagnosed with cancer a couple of years ago, taking in Israel, Amsterdam and other places we had adventures in. It’s had great reviews from the first ten thousand words I put onto a website. I think if you click on my name you can read a little bit about it on my wordpress blog. It will have a happy ending in a months time. Take care and many thanks. Social work is a qualification to be proud of x

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